ARE YOU AN ABUSER?
- Did your partner already tell you that you are abusive?
- Is your spouse afraid of you?
- Have you ever threatened to kill your spouse?
- Do you believe that your way is the only way?
- Have you ever hit, slapped, pushed, pulled hair, or choked your spouse?
- Do you often feel jealousy?
- Do you believe you have the right to know what your spouse is doing and where your spouse is all the time?
- Do you call or text your spouse incessantly when he or she is out without you?
- Do you think of yourself as in charge?
- Do you enjoy seeing your spouse in pain, crying or hurt?
- Do you believe your spouse deserves to be hit or yelled at or punished?
- Do you believe your spouse ‘asked for it’?
- Do you break or destroy your spouse’s belongings on purpose?
- Have you ever been arrested for violent behavior?
- Do others tell you that have an anger problem?
- Do others tell you that you seem paranoid?
- Are you afraid of asking for help because you might lose everything that is important to you?
- Has your spouse ever tried to leave you?
- Do you think about “getting even” with your spouse?
- Do you twist things around, lie or exaggerate to make your partner doubt him/her self and sense of reality?