BACKGROUND

ACTION TAKEN

FINAL OUTCOME

Meera is a professional in her late 30s and has 2 children aged 8 and 11. She sensed that something was amiss in her marriage but couldn’t figure out exactly what was wrong. She had been unhappy for quite a long time. Her conditioning was so strong that she denied for many years that her relationship was an abusive one. She joined the Invisible Scars support group. On the group, we regularly share information to create awareness about domestic abuse. Meera began to read our posts and the information shared on the group. She read the emotional abuse checklist and recognized many similarities in her situation. The checklist gave her insight on her situation at the time. She started to read up and research about abuse. Initially she tried to make things work by seeking counselling. But her husband was rigid in his ways, so didn’t listen to her, resulting in no change. Moreover, she could sense that her children were uncomfortable and unhappy with the overall situation

She moved out of the joint apartment into another apartment in the same community in order to check if she and her children would be able to manage alone (a testing period). She filed for divorce under the DV Act of 2005. Being a working professional, she could afford to live independently. Even though court proceedings were not easy, she did not want to go back into a bad marriage. During this period, her husband left no stone unturned to trouble her and the children and constantly harassed them. To be able to cope with this harassment, she sought psychological counselling for herself and her children. Psychological counselling provided her with the much-needed objectivity and emotional stability she needed at the time

2 years later she was granted a divorce. Since divorces in India continue to remain a stigma, Meera constantly worried about her decision and its impact on her children. All her fears were put to rest when her son told her how happy he was to be away from “that man” and how scared he was living with him. One of the other positives for Meera was that she got support from her family, friends, colleagues and neighbors. This support made moving out, shifting and resettling much easier for her. Meera and her children have moved to another city now. She got a new job in a senior capacity, she lives in a decent place and her children are now going to a reputed school. Today, Meera is living a stress-free life. She, as well as her children, are in a happy and peaceful environment. She is looking forward to traveling the world and trying all her favorite food. She also looks forward to a second chance in life